Role models

I was trying to see what verses were appropriate concerning role models. There are some to choose from but it hasn't hit me which one is the most appropriate. As we grow up, our parents are supposed to, in my opinion, be our role models. They are supposed to set the example for us. Why people hold on to "do as I say and not as I do" is mystery to me as children are very impressionable. They copy whatever they see. There is a guy I was told about. His son is about 3 yrs old and he doesn't talk much but if the dad puts on rap music, with cussing included, the little boy will dance and repeat the words. Why anyone would ever think that is cute, is beyond me. That is my opinion, but I also highly doubt God sees this as favorable. We, the parents, are the 1st people the kids see to learn whatever they can from us until other people come into the picture.

What spurred this line of thinking happened when I went to pick up my baby from his dad's mother's house. My baby's father's parents have been divorced for quite a while. In fact, my ex has anger against his father as his father was not there when he was younger. He wasn't there to teach him the things a man is supposed to teach his son as he is growing older so my ex took to the guys of the streets to find his role model. That has got to be hard on a young boy. Anyway, like I said my baby's dad still has anger towards his dad for this. I have more of an understanding as to why my baby's dad didn't trust my ex husband.

My ex's dad, currently has a girlfriend, however he comes over the my ex's mother's house alot. And it is not just to say hi.  I know this because my baby's dad told me his mother told him about an episode between her and  his father where his father couldn't "perform." Ewww...was a little too much information for me, but I see why my ex keeps thinking what he thinks. His parents are doing this. But the problem is just because his parents do this, doesn't mean everyone else does this. He lived in a closed world (and at times still continues to live in a closed world).....His mother made the statement she didn't trust anyone, which is where I think he got some of his trust issues from. But still, what one person does doesn't mean every one else will. At times I feel sorry for my baby's dad....when I am not mad at him for the things he says but I also think that everyone has the opportunity to not become a product of their environment. I guess if you don't have a way out, what choice do you have, but as God does for us, there is always a way out. (I think)

We think that family are the ones who will not hurt us, however, sometimes they seem to be the ones who hurt us the most...I guess because they are the closest. I am not sure what happened as far as his and his mother's religion as she goes to church and I believe they did when growing up. But I guess if we as parents don't have the knowledge, strength, and courage to help our kids know and understand God, they will be lost when they get older and start making their own decision.

LOL...I knew something would come to me! Thank you Jesus!
Proverbs 22:6
King James Version (KJV)
6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

It all starts at home. I bet half of the youths out there wouldn't be acting the way they did if the parents held onto that verse. Yeah, I know personally how hard it is as a single mother, and I understand there are situations in life, but our children are precious and innocent but there are so many who don't look at them that way and therefore there are so many who are lost. I am grateful that I am not the only one who speaks and tries to show them the way of God. My 2 oldest son's father does this as well. That I am so so grateful for. So we will pray that our boys will be what God intends them to be, even though we are doing it from 2 different households. As for the baby's father, I can only continue to pray that he will open his heart and let the Lord in so that he will not have his children growing up angry at him......

I wish my upbringing had of been different as well. The only time we went to church was when we stayed with our grandparents in the summer. During the year with our parents, we didn't. I remember those church days. (sigh) We belonged to the church. Had a concert that had so many people up on their feet and praising God..... I wish my parents would have kept that going with us. Maybe things would have turned out a lot different with me and my sister. But I can't cry over spilled milk. I am developing my relationship with the Lord and trying to keep my children there as well. It's not happening perfectly but that's what I am striving for.

Going towards the goal...finishing the race...

Until next time.....